Tag Archive | Retirement community

How often is a Doctor Available?

As the primary family care partner for my Mom, I was often taking her to a variety of medical appointments. While both of the communities she lived in had visiting doctor’s, they usually were unable to see her in a timely manner or did not have the type of expertise needed. For instance, after a […]

The Benefit of a Continuing Care Retirement Community (CCRC)

The Benefit of a Continuing Care Retirement Community (CCRC)

In the past year, I’ve had a love-hate relationship with the retirement community my parents selected. At first, when I learned how much they paid to enter and then were paying monthly to live in an apartment with just meal and cleaning services (its referred to as Independent Living), I wondered why my parents selected […]

We have a meeting with the Executive Director at 11 a.m.

We have a meeting with the Executive Director at 11 a.m.

Today is the day when my parents will be told that they are being transferred to Assisted Living. My mom knew she had this appointment with the Executive Director and has been asking me if I think it’s about moving the frame chopper into their apartment. When I arrive today my mom is anxious. My […]

Your parents agreement with the retirement community is being terminated

Your parents agreement with the retirement community is being terminated

About three weeks ago, I got a call that changed everything. The Executive Director from my parents retirement community called to tell me “Your parents agreement with the retirement community is being terminated.” “What did they pay for when they moved in?” was all that came out.  The Executive Director clarified that they were going to […]

Add the Retirement Community to the List of Concerned Parties

Add the Retirement Community to the List of Concerned Parties

When my brothers were in town two months ago we met with the staff at the retirement community. We were surprised to learn that their impression is that my dad is in more need of support than my mom. After my brothers spent several days with my parents, they understand why. My dad has no short-term […]

Enter Adult Protective Services … Really

Enter Adult Protective Services … Really

Several weeks ago the retirement community scheduled a meeting with my parents. We all sat down and the staff  shared their concerns about some things they have seen in my parent’s behavior. My parents refute each claim and dismiss each fact. At one point, my dad turns to me and asks if I have seen the […]

Music and Dementia

Music and Dementia

Music soothes the savage beast. For my parents, it engages their minds and brings forth happy memories. I stopped by to visit my parents and I couldn’t find them at their retirement community. When I went to ask if someone saw them get in a cab, I was told “No, they are at the OctoberFest […]