Tag Archive | planning

Mom is back in the hospital

Mom is back in the hospital

When the primary caregiver fails, it’s really hard to quickly pick up the pieces. In this case, Mom has been caring for Dad with Alzheimer’s, but now Mom has health issues that landed her in the hospital. If the caregiver ends up in the hospital, the mad scramble from Plan B begins.  Most families are […]

How will I not become my mom?

I vividly remember my husband once accusing me of being just like my Mom when we were in a disagreement. He knew quickly afterward that it was one of the meanest things he could say to me and has never repeated it in a derogatory manner. I think every daughter has some of this baggage. […]

The financial costs of aging in place … are you sure?

The financial costs of aging in place … are you sure?

As I face the reality of the high costs of my Mom’s care, I’m working on creating my ideal aging story line. What I realized as I have watched my parents was that while most of us bought into the traditional concept of “retirement” with open schedules and the pursuit of hobbies, that model undermines healthy aging. We […]

Did you know we have a date for Dad’s burial?

Did you know we have a date for Dad’s burial?

As I entered a holiday celebration at a girlfriends house, my phone is ringing. My Mom is calling me at 7:30 p.m. She hasn’t called me “late night” in over a month. Kay: “Hey Mom. How are you?” Mom: “Kay, Did you know we have a date for Dad’s burial? He’s gonna be buried next […]

Seventy percent of American’s over 65 will need long-term care

Seventy percent of American’s over 65 will need long-term care

Wow. Ignoring the facts won’t make them go away. They seem unbelievable. The National Clearinghouse for Long-Term Care Information reported that about 70% of Americans who live to age 65 will need long-term care at some time in their lives, over 40 percent in a nursing home. Learn more by visiting their website and to […]

44 Million Caregivers in the U.S

44 Million Caregivers in the U.S

One of the most striking realizations for me lately is how many of us are out there helping an aging loved one. In November 2012, the Alzheimer’s Association reported that 43.5 million care for someone 50+ years of age and 14.9 million care for someone with Alzheimer’s disease or other dementia.  Our system doesn’t work. […]

It takes all four of us to manage the move

It takes all four of us to manage the move

The past year has made me regret not having more than two children. Since I grew up with four kids in my family, I always believed I would have four children myself. That was until I had the first one! He was a tough baby, or possibly, I was an ill-prepared mom. I started late, […]