Tag Archive | helping parents

You are still their child, even at 60!

You are still their child, even at 60!

I have the chance to meet and talk to a lot of adult children who are caring for loved ones with dementia. At a recent “Caregiver Academy” talk, I shared some of the major roadblocks I faced when trying to help my parents. I usually get a few open guffaws from other adult children facing […]

Have you heard of The CARE Act (Caregiver Advise, Record, Enable Act)?

Have you heard of The CARE Act (Caregiver Advise, Record, Enable Act)?

I attended a caregiving support group at my Mom’s retirement community. One of the members was sharing the horror story about the release of her husband from the hospital. I immediately relived the story of my Dad’s hip surgery and the doctor’s discharge plans. After breaking his hip on the racquetball court, the doctors were […]

Helping someone with Dementia find Meaning and Purpose

Helping someone with Dementia find Meaning and Purpose

My daughter and I visited my Mom yesterday and as we were leaving my 11-year old turned to me and said “She’s a lot worse.” I have noticed that instead of one or two odd-ball comments, she now has whole sentences that don’t make sense. She is also doing things that don’t seem very nice, […]

What to do when your conversation with your parent turns unreasonable

What to do when your conversation with your parent turns unreasonable

A friend told me the other day she was trapped in a debate with her parents who were going to fire their beloved cleaning lady. Her parents were convinced they were going to have to pay her social security. She did not work enough to come close to the hours needed, but her parents would […]

Out of the mouth of babes: “That was a weird call”

Out of the mouth of babes: “That was a weird call”

My brothers left to get back to their lives. The past week was full of activity and we made progress on some major items we needed to address. As I was in the car with my son, my mom calls and I answer. I have Bluetooth, so he can hear the full conversation. Mom: “Hi Kay, did […]

When you adapt to your parent’s dementia, so do they.

When you adapt to your parent’s dementia, so do they.

I am a glass half full kinda  gal, but my last two parental visits went a little too well. Many of you shared that after a few weeks or months, the changes your parent fought starts to settle in. After one of my parent’s doctors revoked their licenses using the DMV form that is offered […]

Where are my Car Keys?

Where are my Car Keys?

After my sister gets punked by my parents she comes to stay at my house. My parents said they wanted to give up the car keys and driving, but when my sister starts to drive them everywhere they end up taking the keys and leaving her without a car or a ride. My sister was trying to help keep […]