Tag Archive | community

How do if know if a community is a safe place for mom or dad?

My parents tried to get ahead of having one of us choose a community to help with their care. The bought into a Life Care Community in 1998. However, they never really wanted to live there. It got comical when they told us they didn’t want to really move in yet because that is where […]

When More Translates to More Options for Failure

When More Translates to More Options for Failure

I visit my mom in her community two to three times a week. There is usually one medical or care issue to follow-up on or navigate. We’ve been monitoring some minor issues with a focus on keeping mom as happy and comfortable as we can. I was planning on a social visit with mom today […]

Finding the Right Villagers to Help Mom Age

Finding the Right Villagers to Help Mom Age

I am the local family caregiver, and have been for at least five years. I realize when I talk to someone new on this journey how long I’ve been in this role and how many ups-and-downs we have weathered. While my parents have never lived with me, there are a host of issues to face […]

Mom would never dance if she lived with me.

Mom would never dance if she lived with me.

I have an ongoing battle that rages on in my brain about where mom should be. I wonder if we should have moved her in with us, but recognize that caring for my parents has already overshadowed some major segments of my life. I want to do what’s right by her, but also want to […]

The Sneaky Poke and a New Connection

The Sneaky Poke and a New Connection

I’ve had to make an adjustment to how I visit my mom. The community is dedicated to memory care so on any visit, I could be walking in to find a resident who is frantically searching for their dog and asks for my help, or one that has just decided to follow me and is […]

Recreating Familiar for Mom at the New Community

Recreating Familiar for Mom at the New Community

The actual move went off smoothly. I hired Vanessa Seifert with Squared Away Living to help me. She is a professional organizer, and has helped many families move loved ones into retirement communities. She packed up the items in the morning and by the time we arrived, Mom’s room was put together. My mom is […]

The decision to move mom

The decision to move mom

On Monday, we drove mom to her new community. I had help moving her things and before she arrived, her room was filled with her favorite paintings and family photographs. The staff at the new community immediately welcomed her and got her involved in activities. We didn’t make this decision lightly. My parents and my […]