My Siblings

You are still their child, even at 60!

You are still their child, even at 60!

I have the chance to meet and talk to a lot of adult children who are caring for loved ones with dementia. At a recent “Caregiver Academy” talk, I shared some of the major roadblocks I faced when trying to help my parents. I usually get a few open guffaws from other adult children facing […]

Caregiving or Enabling?

Caregiving or Enabling?

Is it possible that helping a loved one might actual be helping them maintain an unsafe living situation?

Dreaming of Mom

Dreaming of Mom

I was so happy when I woke up from a dream where mom didn’t have dementia. They started after mom died, and I hadn’t realized that for the last few years of mom’s life, she always had dementia in my dreams. For the first time since mom passed away, I had a dream about her […]

6. Don’t talk about someone with dementia in front of them like they don’t exist.

6. Don’t talk about someone with dementia in front of them like they don’t exist.

You still won’t like someone talking about you like you don’t exist IF you are diagnosed with dementia.

The legacies we leave behind.

The legacies we leave behind.

The most valuable legacy my parents left has no monetary value.

Caregiving and Siblings: It’s Important to Make it Work

Dementia has taken our parents from us incrementally and cruelly*. We faced many hard decisions through the journey. The most notable legacy my parents left behind was adult children that could work together. We had to overcome a host of challenges as my parent’s health was declining. We are like many families, we’ve got baggage […]

Adjusting Hope When The Options Are Bleak

Adjusting Hope When The Options Are Bleak

When the doctor confirmed mom’s hip was broken, she gave me two options. No surgery, or surgery, but we would have to remove the Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order in place. Mom has been using a walker while assisted and in a wheelchair for months. She wasn’t interested in working to walk again so the […]