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Navigating the Early Stages of Dementia

redpurse

I wanted to get my mom a red purse thinking it would be easier to find. 

I feel that the early phases of dementia bring some of the hardest things to navigate. Things get lost, misplaced, or hidden really well, and it can be incredibly frustrating as well as humiliating to the person who is missing their phone, keys, purse, or wallet.

With no short-term memory, it’s hard to rely on what the person says about the last place they had the item. It’s also human nature to get a little defensive when someone is grilling you about where you left your wallet. It’s best to take a breath and tread lightly. The person that lost the item and can’t find it is already in distress, and I know from experience, looking for it over hours can be maddening.

Some ideas to help:

  1. Get the Tile (or TrackR or other GPS device) you can store in the wallet, purse, put on the keychain or attach to a phone.  You can put an app on your smart phone to find it.
  2. Make sure you have color copies of their identification so you have account or record numbers should you need an ID replacement.
    • Cancel the credit cards and checking account. A growing number of seniors are having fake checks drawn on their checking account after a purse or wallet has gone missing (even to show up later, they already have your routing and account number).
      • Only carry a check register with a little money in the account.
      • Do not use Debit Cards that immediately draw money from your checking account but use a prepaid credit card, or set up an account with a low credit line to minimize exposure.
    • In most states, you can log in to their DMV account and reorder a replacement drivers license.
    • Keep other forms of valid photo identification active. For instance, should you lose your driver’s license, having a valid Passport can act as a backup form of photo identification.
    • Contact the issuing agency. For those of you with a military ID, you may find the local base can help you navigate the loss of the ID.
  3. Get a safe with a digital keypad for safe keeping. For a family friend who has children that visit, I mentioned they might want to consider storing the important IDs in the safe and the siblings can easily get into it if they share the safe passcode should they need to help mom replace a lost ID again. They did have one with a key, but mom couldn’t find they key.

I don’t really understand the reason behind the behavior to hide things, but I know that I’ve seen it in too many clients.

What have you done that has been successful?

If you haven’t already, I hope you take the time to get the important documents, account details, and assets organized so you can minimize any further loss or misplacement. You can download a free copy covering what to save and what you should shred. The hiding habit usually includes a hoarding habit. Magazines and mail start to pile up … so I hope this will help you sort through the piles you might be also facing. Revisited. 

Here are a few of the stories from my journey:

Where is my Gold Necklace?

Where are you?

Where are my car keys?

 

3 comments on “Navigating the Early Stages of Dementia

  1. I spend a lot of my time searching. Currently, a special slipper is missing along with several other things of importance. I’ve given up on Maureen’s engagement ring as it’s long gone. If ever I catch the guilty parties who move things around or steal them they are for the high jump!

  2. Great article! We would love for you to guest write for our blog – StoriiCare. Please get in touch kumba@storii.com if this is something you would be interested in.

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