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Shut up or I’ll pop you in the mouth.

My brother shares his stories from his visit with my parents.

After a couple of drinks, my mom often starts making statements over and over like, “I’ve never been here before,” referring to the club she has attended three nights a week for two decades. Before I know it, I’ve responded, “No mom, you come here all the time.” She immediately responds with “prove it!” in a condescending and mistrusting tone.

After the fifth rendition, I decide to turn the tables and say to my mom, “This is my first time, so I cannot know if this is your first visit either.” She then responds, “That is not true, you come here all the time with us.” I say “Prove it.” She then says, “You better shut up or I’ll pop you in the mouth!”

I respond strongly telling her, if she doesn’t calm down I will take her outside and put her in the car (just like when we were children and were unruly in public). I find that treating her like a child helps to break her mean and unruly streak. Calculated.

4 comments on “Shut up or I’ll pop you in the mouth.

  1. I’ll definitely have to try that approach… It sure beats the never-ending argument and subsequent hurt feelings!

  2. […] Dinner dates were getting missed, family history was changing, and initially I would challenge mom as I had in the past. I showed up for dinner on Tuesday, she said we were supposed to meet Thursday … our relationship degraded and I felt like I was 16 and re-enacting my teen-age years (yeah, I was right then too : >.) Some of our disagreements ended with her threatening to “pop me in the mouth.” My brother shared his experience with the same behaviors in a blog post from April 2012. […]

  3. […] Dinner dates were getting missed, family history was changing, and initially I would challenge mom as I had in the past. I showed up for dinner on Tuesday, she said we were supposed to meet Thursday … our relationship degraded and I felt like I was 16 and re-enacting my teen-age years (yeah, I was right then too : >.) Some of our disagreements ended with her threatening to “pop me in the mouth.” My brother shared his experience with the same behaviors in a blog post from April 2012. […]

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